The Seasons Of Motherhood, Which One Are You In?
There are many seasons of motherhood. Moms come from all ranges of the spectrum, from all walks of life. Some are first time moms, some are young moms. Maybe you're a mom-to-be, or an older mom. In any case, as moms we go through all the seasons of motherhood.
You have either gone through a season, are in one now, or will go through one in the future. It's so nice to have a little heads up before you actually come into a season, so you can kind of have an idea of what to expect. And once you're in a season, it helps to have support and people who you can relate to, who have been there.
Well let me tell you, as a mom I have been through almost all of the seasons of motherhood. I'd like to share some experiences and maybe a little of what I've learned with you.
I know, you're so excited you can hardly contain it! You have this new life growing inside of you, you have hopes and dreams and a clear plan for the future. Everything's just about perfect.......oh wait, you have to pee again. Hopefully you can make it to the bathroom this time, it's slow going because your feet are so swollen and your back hurts like heck. And on the way there you see a t.v. commercial that makes you start to cry....yup, you're definitely a mom-to-be!
It actually is a very exciting time, although truth be told, it's not all peaches and cream. You are usually faced with lots of decisions, some of which will have life long consequences, (naming your baby, for one.) No pressure though. :)
The upside to all of this, (other than the beautiful bundle that you will soon hold in your arms,) is that there really is alot of help and resources out there now for a mom-to-be.
is a great site, filled with tons of knowledgeable information. You can also join up and chat with other moms, or ask questions.
First time moms
The house is clean, the baby's bathed, you've showered and done hair and make up, and dinner is in the oven-NOT!
Reality sets in fast- the house is a mess, poor baby is going to skip a bath, (although after flinging those coffee grounds on his head from out of the garbage, he really does need one,) you haven't showered in days, (you have no clean underwear anyway,) and dinner is whatever your hubby picks up on the way home. Welcome to motherhood!
Are you newly married, new to this whole mom thing? Maybe you can still hang out with your friends, oh wait....where did they all go?
Yes, being a young mom you face all kinds of challenges. You maybe didn't get to spend enough time being YOU before junior showed up, you may have the feeling that there's still so much you want to do. And you're not experienced enough to hang with the older moms, it's like they think they outrank you. (Well, they actually do, but we'll talk about that later.)
Take heart, you are not alone! Especially in todays society, it seems the mom's keep getting younger and younger. Just know that although your life may be way different now, it can still be fulfilling. Yes, you have a tremendous responsibility, but you can handle it, or else it wouldn't have been given to you.
Keep your chin up, chances are you're doing just fine. Seek out help when you need it, and don't be afraid to ask for advice from us old-timers. :)
Older moms pretty much fit into two categories. There are the moms who have been there, done that, either have raised or are still raising older children, (by older I just mean not babies.)
Then there are the moms that have established their career and developed their sense of who they are before having children later in life. So we'll break these down into two different seasons of motherhood.
Older experienced moms:
You know who you are. You know that it's not the end of the world if your child goes three days without a bath, that you only need to know about the injury if there's blood involved, and when kids are eating, there's that 5 second rule.........
You've been around the block a time or two, and yes, sometimes we like to retain bragging rites about it. After all, we've put our hearts and souls into being moms, even sacrificing our own careers or putting our dreams for ourselves on hold for awhile so we can enjoy the seasons of motherhood.
It's nice to be considered a voice of experience when new moms need advice or opinions. It kind of makes you feel like, hey, I do know what I'm talking about, I've been through that myself. And it is truly a good feeling to be able to help someone who needs it, someone who may be where you were not long ago.
Older new moms:
First off, you won't have as many of the issues alot of moms have since you've had ample time to develop who you are before transitioning into the seasons of motherhood. So in a way you're ahead of the rest of us in that aspect. You've had lots of life experiences, most likely some things us long time moms have only dreamt about.
But I will tell you this: being an older mom has its down side, too. You're often times stuck getting advice from moms who are much younger than you, although that doesn't bother some people. And you'll find that you may have a bit more difficulty keeping up with junior than your younger counterparts. But motherhood is motherhood, no matter when you enter it- so welcome to the club!
So you see, there are many seasons of motherhood. But no matter where you are in your journey, know that you are not alone- there are always moms who have been there, done that. Heck, some have even done it worse than you!
Motherhood is a learning experience, you can get better at it, but you never do quite master it. Just when you think you've got it all figured out, your kid will throw you a curve ball. So take heart, relax, have a cup of joe- and enjoy the all the seasons of motherhood.
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