Older Moms, Are You An Experienced Or First Time Mother?

Older moms definitely experience things differently than younger moms.

Some women are moms for the first time in their thirties or even forties nowadays. Women who want to establish a career first are waiting to have children until later in life.

Then the hard choices begin. Do I continue this job I've worked so hard at, or do I give it all up to stay home and be a mom?

It's a tough decision, and one that each mother has to make for herself. I would just ask yourself a few simple questions and think hard about your answers before you come to a conclusion.

Older first time moms

Question #1: Why do you want to have a child?

Question #2: Are you willing and able to give up your job and live on less income?

Question #3: What are you willing to sacrifice for your child?

Quesion #4: If you continue to work, how much time will you actually be spending with your child?

Quesion #5: Do you think there is anyone out there who can care for your child the way that you could?

Older experienced moms

Then there are those of us who are older who already have some mothering experience under our belts. Some of us have older children, while some of us have decided that after having kids in our twenties, we'd like to do it all again. It's like having two sets of kids, one older, one younger. (Crazy? Absolutely. But so worth it!)

There are advantages, definitely. You've already been through the stages before- diapering, caring for a baby, then a toddler, etc. You know what to do and what to expect, and in some ways that makes it easier. This isn't your first rodeo.

Then there are the factors that you didn't plan for, like the way your body feels at this stage in your life. Chasing after kids when you're an older mom is more difficult than when you're younger. Let's face it, we're just more tired! We allow our kids to touch more, do more, and get away with more, because if it won't kill them then it can't be all that bad, right? (Sorry, that's my older mother humor coming out!)

But seriously, keeping up with the kiddos is different than when you're younger. Thank God for our older children who we can get to chase after, play with, or just entertain our younger ones, at least once in awhile (if we're lucky!)

It's even nice to be able to offer advice to younger or first time mothers, to be kind of a role model, if you will. Usually they are grateful for any advice from someone who's already experienced what they're going through, and survived it! And first time young mothers are more often in need of support, just someone they can rely on for help or to share experiences with.

So being an older mom is an experience all it's own, and those of you who are on this journey with me know exactly what I'm talking about.

For those younger or first time moms, don't worry, you'll get here eventually. In the meantime, please give us the respect we deserve. We've earned mother's bragging rights, so even if you don't really want our advice, just smile, be polite, and let us have our fifteen seconds of fame. :)

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