Do We Still Value Motherhood In America?
When you think of motherhood in America, what comes to mind? A successful career woman, who does it all- works all day, cooks, cleans, spends time with the kids and has everything done by nine o'clock?
If you are one of those women, I would personally like to meet you and shake your hand. Oh, and to tell you that you are making it harder for the rest of us.
As moms, we feel so much pressure- pressure to do it all, be it all, and have it all. Pressure to be as good as your family, friends, co-workers, even strangers you see on T.V.
My question is, what ever happened to just being the best that we can be? If you are a mom and you're meeting the needs of your family, then to heck with everyone else and what they think!
We need to stop focusing on the things we are not quite getting right, what we are not attaining in our lives, and start focusing on all the things that we are getting right! So what if you're still in your jammies when your kids come home from school. Focus on what you did accomplish today.
Sometimes it helps to make a list of everything you have to do, and cross it off when you get it done. Then you have not only a way of keeping track of things, but a visual reminder of your daily accomplishments.
It may sound kind of silly, but you need to celebrate the little things.
Did you get caught up on the laundry, dishes, and make all the beds? Then you're probably ahead of the majority of us!
Also, write down a few major projects that you'd like to get done in the next few months, then devote a couple of days strictly to work on those. Do minimal dishes, make the laundry wait, and order a pizza for dinner. Completing a major household project does give you a feeling of satisfaction.
Don't forget to take some 'me time'. We get so caught up in being mom, sometimes we forget what it feels like to just be us.
Connect with friends, go out on a date with your husband, go shopping- whatever it is that you like to do, find the time to squeeze it in once in awhile. Every mom needs a break, and don't you dare feel guilty for taking one.
I think we need to put the pride back into motherhood in America. Moms need to quit feeling like they have to be working in order to be a contributing member of society.
I don't know how many times I've heard the phrase, 'You're JUST a mom'. JUST A MOM! Like that's not enough, I should be doing something else with my life. That's when I turn and say, 'Well, you're JUST a car salesman!' :)
Now if you're a working mom, I'm not putting you down. I'm just saying that you are more accepted in the world because being a mom isn't all that you do.
You most likely have more self worth, you do bring home a paycheck and may even get praised at your job.
America embraces you as a supermom, the kind of woman that can do it all. Kinda makes the rest of us feel like we have to measure up. We face different challenges, that's all.
If you're a stay at home mom, you need to be proud. Even though it doesn't feel like changing diapers and wiping snotty noses is helping out the country, it really is. You are raising the future, children who will grow up and possibly change the world.
Thank God for mothers who are willing to sacrifice their time, sleep, career, and often sanity! You truly epitomize motherhood in America, and we should thank you all for making it your career of choice.
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