Is Being A Stay At Home Mom Difficult?
Being a stay at home mom is a job that is filled with many challenges which are paralleled by many blessings. I guess one of the age old myths is that we sit around all day and do nothing, except eat bon bons and watch soap operas, of course. Stay at home moms have gotten a bad rap. People often don't value what we do. After all, we don't work, right?
Not unless, of course, you count the following as work:
Waking kids up, getting kids dressed, fixing breakfast, packing lunches, nursing baby, changing baby, getting kids off to school, doing dishes, starting laundry, cleaning
bathrooms, vacuuming, sweeping the floors, switching over the laundry, bathing baby, dressing baby, nursing baby, changing baby, fixing lunch, paying bills, running errands, (oh, did i forget to shower?), helping kids with homework, more laundry, nursing baby, cooking dinner, setting table, doing dishes, giving baths, changing baby, nursing baby, putting everyone to bed. More laundry.
And then you have to take the kids to occasional doctor visits, dental appointments, softball (or football, or soccer) practices, and over to friends houses. There are school conferences, field trips, and class parties to attend. Did I leave anything out?
Many moms find it difficult being a stay at home mom to feel a sense of pride about what they do. Sometimes they suffer from low self esteem, even depression.
You're cooped up in the house all day with chores unending, kids forever needing something, and no time to take a break. Even bothering to do hair and make up seems like such a waste of time, where are you going today anyway?
If you're the mother of a baby, just wearing a shirt with no spit up on it is considered being dressed for the day. If you are going to wear make up, you learn to get your routine down so that it takes you about five minutes to get ready. That part however does get easier as your baby gets older.
And you will find that after a season of t-shirts and ponytails, you will enjoy having yourself put together everyday. It is good for your self esteem to look your best, or at least presentable.
For those of you that have a hard time being stuck in the house, make an effort to get out, at least once a week. I know it can be frustrating, especially with small children, so you may have to plan ahead.
If your kids do good shopping, go to a store. If not, go visit a friend, or just take a walk- just something to get out of your everyday routine and surroundings. Take your kids to the park, or see if there are any indoor play structures in your area. Get creative, just so you get out.
I think one of the biggest causes of depression in stay at home moms is isolation. I know it can be hard when you don't have much time to yourself, but you do need to reach out and make sure you have someone you can talk to.
You need to be able to share your troubles with someone who understands, namely another mother. If you don't have this kind of support in your life, please look for it. There are so many resources available to stay at home moms online, places where you can not only get info, but just chat with other mothers.
Being a stay at home mom also has it's upside. You're there for all the firsts: The first word, first tooth, first time your baby sits up and walks, first day of school.
You get to hear all the stories about what happened at school that day, what homework they have, and who their new best friend is. You get to spend time playing dress up or building with Legos, reading stories and just hanging out together.
When your child needs to talk, you are there. When they get hurt, you are there. When they just want to cuddle, you are there. And this is the stuff that makes the job we have worthwhile, not because of what anyone else thinks of us, but because of what it means to our children that we are there.
Is being a stay at home mom challenging? You bet. It's not an easy job, and anyone says that it is has never done it. But in the long run, the challenges and difficulties are far outweighed by the blessings.
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